If you've never heard of "edging," then prepare to have your mind blown.
Whether you do it solo or with a partner, practicing edging is something that's going to take your orgasms to a whole new level.
Both Le Wand Deux and Le Wand Point from the Chrome Collection are perfect choices for this. Deux can be comfortably held in place until you reach the edge and are ready to stop before starting again. Point doesn't even need your hands to hold it in place. While it stimulates your entire vulva, including your clitoris, you can use your fingers to stimulate other parts of your body. Then, as that orgasm starts to sneak up on you, turn your Point off or remove it. Wait approximately 30 seconds and then start up again.
What is edging?
Edging is when you bring yourself—or your partner—as close to an orgasm as possible, to the edge so to speak, then STOP. While the initial thought of this might coincide with thinking, "Why would anyone do this?" From a pleasure standpoint, it really pays off: stronger and possibly even longer orgasms. What's not to love? Although, for the most part, edging is something that people with penises tend to practice more than people with vulvas, don't think for one moment that being a vulva-owner is standing in the way of your ability to edge.Why does edging feel so good?
Think about it this way: You're with your partner (or yourself) and there's a lot of sexual teasing going on. This teasing leaves you wanting more while the blood rushes to your genital, become engorged, as you reach peak arousal. There's a good chance that once those sensations hit (that wonderful ache of desire), your need to climax is at an all-time high. Now imagine taking that level of teasing and focusing it on more genital play. The more you bring yourself—or your partner—close to the edge of climax, the more powerful and intense the orgasm will be. It's the increased and prolonged arousal that, when let loose, is the climax of climaxes. But there's more to edging than mind-blowing orgasms.What's the history behind edging?
For people with penises, edging gives them the opportunity to have more control over how long they can keep an erection before coming. In fact, edging was created to help men with premature ejaculation. In 1956, Dr. James H. Semans, a Duke University surgeon and urologist, published an article in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in which he began his introduction with, "premature ejaculation is very undesirable... it may lead to sexual impotence." His solution for this was for penis-owners to enjoy external stimulation by a partner "until the premonitory sensation of ejaculation." Next, the stimulation would be stopped before climax and the sensation to come no longer existed. Then, roughly 30 seconds later, the cycle was repeated. The method worked and became known as the "stop-start" technique.How do you get started with edging?
As with most things involving our bodies, going solo and exploring is the best way to start edging. So get in there, use a hand mirror, touch different parts of your body—your vulva, your penis, your perineum, your anus, your clitoris—experiment with it all.Edging for penis-owners:
If you've been masturbating long enough, then you already know what works. Some like the stroking method, others like squeezing, while others prefer more of a twisting type motion. It's these preferable techniques to which you want to stick. But, because you're going to stop yourself from having an orgasm, just before you climax, you want to squeeze the glans (otherwise known as the head) of your penis. Once you've nipped your orgasm in the bud, you want to wait about 30 seconds, then get back to masturbating. You can do this as many times as it feels good to do it. If your concern is more about getting premature ejaculation under control, then ballooning is a better option. Before we even get into ballooning, it should be noted that many, many people with penises suffer from premature ejaculation. The Mayo Clinic estimates that roughly 1 out of every 3 penis-owners will experience PE at some point in their lifetime. So, if you think you're alone, you're certainly not. When it comes to the ballooning technique, things are different. First, find the most sensitive spot on your penis and start rubbing it a circular motion. Continue this form of circular stimulation past your erection and right up until the point where your urge to climax has arrived. Then stop; wait for your erection to go down, then begin again. What makes this different from edging is the goal isn't an orgasm. According to Strong Health, some men use ballooning as many as 20 times a day to increase sexual desire, with some claiming that even after one round, their libido and stamina increase exponentially.Edging for vulva-owners:
Although we're dealing with a similar concept, the technique is going to be different too. As you would with any masturbation session, get your essentials: lube, maybe some porn, and your favorite vibrator of the moment. Because 75 to 80% of vulva-owners need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, a vibrator is practically a must for many. And, since you're going to be practicing edging for an indeterminate amount of time, you also want a vibrator that isn't going to result in carpal tunnel.